The year 2020 sounds so futuristic to me. It almost gives me the vibe that we should have flying cars by now or have the ability to teleport. While we aren’t quite there with our technology yet, the one thing we know for sure that each New Year brings is: New Years Resolutions.
I’ve never really been into the whole resolutions thing. It can be a bit cheesy, yes, but I also struggle with the idea of waiting for a certain time period to start something. It’s easy to get caught up in the whole “I’ll start on Monday” type of mentally. But why wait until Monday, or until the New Year, or until whatever other excuse to start something that you know you want to do? Why not NOW?
Even though I’m not the biggest fan of resolutions, what I think is worse is not setting your sights on anything at all. Maybe you’re like me and dislike the resolution hype, but then it causes you to complete avoid setting any expectations for yourself for the year at all. Don’t get caught in this trap.
A fresh start can be a good feeling and I’m also am a firm believer that there is no wrong time to set some goals for yourself. How about this year, instead of creating resolutions or avoiding it completely, you look within and ask yourself some questions to get your mind rolling around what it is you truly want?
Below I’ve derived a list of questions to get you started. These are from one of my favorite podcasts called “The Angry Therapist” by John Kim. He has some great content too if you have the time to check it out. Answer one of them or answer them all, its up to you. Either way, here you go:
Questions to Guide you:
- What important relationship in your life would you like to improve most this year? It is imperative to ask this question, but you also need to ask yourself… HOW are you going to do it? What does this look like?
- How would you like to positively influence someone else’s life? It is easy to get caught up in your own struggles and feeling “stuck”. When you’re able to shift and make it more about others, you can find empowerment to propel you forward, too.
- How can you deeply improve your relationship with yourself? If the answer to question #1 wasn’t you (which lets be honest was most likely the majority of us) ask yourself what you need to do to like yourself more this year. Who do you need to become? What do you need to give yourself? How do you need to design your life?
- Who or what are you most committed to loving and serving? It is important to note here that serving doesn’t mean the act of submission. View serving as a gift. This also doesn’t need to be a person; it can be a “what”. Maybe it is your company, your fitness, your hobby, or your craft.
- Who in your life should be acknowledged more? Again, also ask what does that look like for you? This could even be someone who brings the most resistance into your life, like a parent or co-worker for example.
- In what ways are you willing to communicate better with others? Everything starts here. Communication drives the dynamic for all of the relationships in your life.
- How would others benefit from you taking better care of yourself? Sometimes it is easy to think of self-care as selfish. At least I know I used to think of it that way. Thinking of self-care from the viewpoint of helping others can allow us a different way to drive motivation from this area.
- Is there any relationship in your life that would benefit from forgiveness? Walking through life with anger and resentment makes it extremely difficult to produce happiness each day. What would this forgiveness look like?